The Glimpses of Post Abortive Women - A series of real life stories from woman who have faced the traumas of abortion in the Bahamas

Let me tell you my story. It was the 1980's. The height of drug culture in the Bahamas.
I was naive and lost. I was 18....
I had already by taken advantage of by a priest and a step-brother, these were secrets I carried around, not knowing how to tell anyone.
I was naive, not knowing how to behave in a man/woman relationship. No one explained or taught me the expectations, what to do in the face of them. I attended church, I was a leader in youth, the choir, I had a good job, I came from a 2 parent home; no one talked about sex and relationships.
I got into a relationship...
I became pregnant.....
I did not know until the doctor told me. I was shocked. He suggested an abortion; not a medical procedure, an abortion. He was well respected, He knew what he was talking about. I did not have a relationship with my parents, we did not talk about these things or anything much really.
I trusted him, the doctor.
I walked into the Prince Margaret Hospital pregnant and woke up in a recovery room. Bleeding and confused. I did not think about what had happened. I distanced myself from the guy I was involved with.
Life went on. I was 19....
He found me, took advantage of me. I, again was pregnant. I knew what to do because the doctor told me last time. This time, He sent me to another doctor. Same thing happened.
After this time, I could not just forget. The realities began to crash in on me. I became despondent. I was physically sick because I had been losing control of my emotions and my mental strength.....it was the result of the abortions.

The picture in this article says every Life has value, this was not something I knew or was ever told about. Now, I know better!

Victory, what characterizes yours? Kill? or be killed?....what to do!

It was dark, the cave was cramped and damp. Dark. Fear permeated the air. Fear of discovery and almost certain death. He knew the intentions of his enemy and so did those around him. The hounds of death had been after his life for a time now.There was a call that his enemy was near. They were about to search the very cave they were in. How would he escape, there was only one way in ans one way out. Shhhhh!, Silence! Quiet! - these were the thoughts now....oh the enemy is right next to me but he cannot see me. Those around him said, strike now! Strike swiftly! But alas, he just cut a piece of his enemy's cloak.

What would you done! This is always the most difficult thing to do, the most difficult position to find oneself in. They have not been satisfied with trying to destroy your character, your name, they want to take your life also. What do you do? you have the opportunity to finish them before they finish you. What to do?

I have seen so may disparaging comments about prayer lately than I have ever seen before in my lifetime. "We have to do more than pray?" "How would praying help you?".....You see prayer gives me the answer, of what to do, how to do it and when to do it? Action without prayer is self-driven and so many times leads to folly and hardship.

In that cave he prayed. He stopped and took a breath and God answered.

Vengeance is mine!!!! Be obedient to me and watch me work. Trust me with your life. Die to me. Do not let your fear rule your life. Trust me to care for you. You cannot take matters in to your own hands. Deal fairly! Mind your words! Don't let your feelings and frustrations guide you. I AM HERE!

That day David trusted God, he did not kill Saul. He was vindicated by God, made king.

Today, you are facing a situation and you are letting fear, anger, hurt, pain determine your steps. They will lead to destruction. Turn to Him, Creator, Sustainer, All Knowing, All Powerful God!

My Anchor Holds!

Joy and pain!

This morning I awoke with a pain, a searing scorching pain on my heart, so many tears in my eyes and my body racked with hurt. I was about to just lose it and to just give in to it and just grieve and my spirit whispered, pray!!. So I started to mouth words just pray, pray, pray.......As I sat to pray, I remembered a notification on my phone from a friend this morning, it was this verse!
I remember sending this verse to someone this week and they said to me, I believe that but what I am experiencing right now, can't be God's plans. How many times do we as believers feel this way, what does it drive us to. Sometimes retaliation to the person who wronged us, anger, excruciating pain......for me all of this in a situation perpetrated against me and my own. What do I do? I run to the rock. I know just like Hagar, He sees, He knows! But the pain lingers, it creeps it's way in every so often.
Can I tell you, spiritual war is no joke!  Joseph felt it in the pit! David daughter felt it at the hands of her brother! Bethsheba felt it at David's hands! There are so many.....I have felt it so many times in my life. It is worse when the harm is against your family.
But, I told a friend this week, what the devil meant for harm God will make good!!! In the front lines of a battle sometimes you lose some things but Blessed Be the Name of the Lord.
Pray for your brothers and sisters sitting next to you in the road of life. But pray especially for those in the forefront of the battle of good and evil. They really need your prayers. Don't be like Job's friends and His wife. How can we not take good and bad, if we trust in Him! By the end of this post, my spirit is renewed, filled and my mind is refreshed! My strength comes from the Lord! I pray for you today that this will be your truth. That you have the rock of God's love to hold on to in the midst of the storms.
This ship may be battered but the anchor holds!!! My anchor holds!

This verse came to light to me in the year 2000, my husband had been crushed between two cars. We thought he would never walk again, he was in the hospital for months on end. He had eighteen surgeries on one leg, not counting the other. The aftercare was intense because he was still on a wheelchair. Our little girl and I would trek to the hospital daily. I was studying the book of Job before and at the beginning of the accident, I had asked God to believe in me like He believed in Job. Little did I know what that would look like! After the accident our Thursday women's group was studying the book of James and this resonated in my heart. Joy, I was able to find.... There has been many things that have come sense that but my fall safe is to consider it joy! He gives me peace in the midst of the storms because I know who controls the winds. Persecuted but not abandoned! Let joy reign in your heart and you will have peace! His words are true! I can testify! I have tasted and it is good!

Do you bring Him Glory?

All things belong to Him.... My brothers and sisters, those of you that claim Him as Savior, do these words ring out to you? That in all things we are to bring Him glory. Do you spend each day determining in every moment to bring God glory. Sometimes we falter but He is always waiting, waiting to restore us. Where can you go, that God is not there? No, where! What can you do that God does not know? Nothing! What can you say that God cannot hear! Nothing.... He knows all!
When I was a little girl, my father was such a disciplinarian that when my sister and I did something that we were not supposed to do, everyone would say, wait till your dad comes, I am going to tell him. Remember, a few days ago, I spoke about fear. Well, can I tell you that filled me with fear. And you know what that fear produced? Lies... Somehow it was not translated that daddy brought love, even though I knew he loved us, I only saw discipline and do I bring afraid would lie and can I tell you, it did not make the situation better. I remember hearing the clink of the belt buckle as it hit the metal rod in the closet..... Oh my!  I was crying before he even returned!!
My relationship with God is not like that! I realized that I do not have to lie to Him, to others about anything... You see He orders our steps. He is God! So I strive to bring Him glory. His love transcends anything and everything. He is everything, creator, sustainer, deliverer, Father! Our desire should be to bring Him glory in all that we do!

Scandal.........Gossip, Talebearers, Slanderers, Secrets

One of the most successful shows on television today is SCANDAL......Think about it!! Most successful.

 

 

Have you ever been hurt, when you found out people you love and who claim to love you, have been talking about you, when you are not around. Sharing your supposed wrong doing ( and I say supposed because they almost never come to you to ask about it); your actions, even your motives for doing something. Thoughts are made up by those in the presence of that conversation and you are judged by those things.

 I have!!

 And I know you have been to?

 And I have also been guilty?

 But realizing when I am on the receiving end of it, how I feel destroyed by knowing this, I have sought, and asked God to help me to not practice in theses types of conversations. Speculations about someone's motives, actions or thoughts!! This one is hard, because our human nature does not want to examine ourselves, our faults; we want to murder another person because we believe that we are better, or we don't do that, have not done that! My flaws are not so noticeable, but man what they do? 

 

Here are some :Step to be sure you are not involved in gossip:

Do not associate yourself with one who is a known gossip

When someone starts to gossip — change the subject

If you are not part of the problem or part of the solution, stay out of it

If you have fallen into the bad habit of gossiping — ask God to change your heart

When you have been the victim of gossip — confront the parties that spread the rumor

 

Finally here are some bible verses that speaks about this: 

Leviticus 19:16 You shall not go around as a slanderer among your people, and you shall not stand up against the life of your neighbor: I am the LORD.

Proverbs 11:13 Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered.

Proverbs 20:19 Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler.

Proverbs 26:20-22 For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases.  As charcoal to hot embers and wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife. The words of a whisperer are like delicious morsels; they go down into the inner parts of the body.

Jeremiah 6:28 They are all stubbornly rebellious, going about with slanders; they are bronze and iron;  all of them act corruptly.

Jeremiah 9:4 Let everyone beware of his neighbor, and put no trust in any brother, or every brother is a deceiver, and every neighbor goes about as a slanderer. 

Deceit, Backbiting, Busybodies, Malicious Gossips & Whisperers

Psalms 41:7 All who hate me whisper together about me; they imagine the worst for me.

Proverbs 25:23 The north wind brings forth rain, and a backbiting tongue, angry looks.

Romans 1:28-32 And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them.

2 Corinthians 12:20 For I fear that perhaps when I come I may find you not as I wish, and that you may find me not as you wish—that perhaps there may be quarreling, jealousy, anger, hostility, slander, gossip, conceit, and disorder.

1 Timothy 3:9-11 Deacons likewise must be dignified, not double-tongued, not addicted to much wine, not greedy for dishonest gain. They must hold the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience. And let them also be tested first; then let them serve as deacons if they prove themselves blameless. Their wives likewise must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded, faithful in all things.

1 Timothy 5:13-14 Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not. So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander.

2 Timothy 3:1-5 But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy  heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.

Titus 2:2-3 Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness. Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good,

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Changing the Default Settings

The Default Settings: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2

Pastor Rob – “all humans, babies are born and are hard wired with the default setting of sin! He reminded us do you have to teach children to say NO! – You have to teach them to say yes…

This default settings came because of the fall of man, because of Adam’s sin. Each of us and our children when we entered this world came with that default setting to do sinful things, things that go against God’s word, his glory. The sad thing is that most times we are so accepting of it and we feed it. As we feed it our children and we ourselves grow and we continue to say no to God’s way of doing things. We believe if we live a good moral life, that that’s ok; the reality is we can’t. The ugly always comes up. You see the ugly is easy, our default settings and our switches go there easily.

 You say wow! Never really thought about it, what can be done!

The bible in the New Testament tells us to renew our minds and not be conformed to this world.

Prayer: acknowledge who God is. That he is the “I AM” and accepting Him as your savior (you see we all need a Saviour) that He was born, died, buried and rose again and is in heaven. “We all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God” ALL – of us need a Saviour

Teach: We are to teach our children who God is, what He has done, what He will do! "You shall therefore impress these words of mine on your heart and on your soul; and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontals on your forehead. "You shall teach them to your sons, talking of them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road and when you lie down and when you rise up. "You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates….Deuteronomy 11:19-20

The bible says to “Train up a child in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart” Our job is to train them, they may stray, you see the default settings that we all have, sometimes our switch gets stuck there for a minute but then the truth kicks in; if we have Jesus as our Saviour and we turn to Him, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

It’s easy to just accept the default settings, it’s really does not require such work; it’s already there and set up but this default setting can only bring death. Today is the acceptable time to change those settings.